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The Joyful Flamingo
Mike on the Mic: The Male Perspective on Everything from Periods to Barbie to Overthinking
Emily's Hot Hubz joins us for another episode of Mike on the Mic where he gives the male perspective on the topics discussed on the show from February to May! Today, they discuss everything from periods, to Barbie to content consumption, overthinking, men's retreats and more. It's always a good time when these two lovebirds share a conversation on the mic for you all, so listen in and share with all your male counterparts!
Time Stamps:
0:19 - Intro
2:08 - Welcoming Mike to the mic
4:18 - Mike unpacks what he learned about women's cycles
8:30 - Mike's thoughts on the messaging in the Barbie movie and the Ken character
11:00 - Mike's take on the 20 questions every woman should ask herself
15:00 - Mike and Emily discuss content consumption in their household
24:13 - If Emily's an over thinker, Mike's a chronic over thinker
26:00 - Mike's favourite items on Emily's birthday list
29:57 - Mike chats about the idea of men's retreats
31:50 - Mike's favourite episodes since he was on the show last in January
32:56 - Outro
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All right, Flockies, we have not had the male vibes hanging around these parts for a while, so I feared it was time to bring back a Mike on the Mike episode. You know him.
You love him. I love him. And he's here with us today for round two, so giddy up. Well, hey there, friend, and welcome to the Joyful Flamingo podcast.
I'm your host, Emily Schreiber, and I am obsessed with empowering women to tune into themselves, to zoom in on their own well -being, so in turn, they can lead their most vibrant,
aligned, and joyful lives. I wanna create a tsunami of self -discovered, self -loved, and self -understood women to show up in this world unapologetically and joyfully,
and to pass the torch on for generations to come. If any of that feels aligned with your vibe, stick around. around. I'm so glad you're here. Now, let's go find our joy. Hey,
hey, hey, joyful flamingo flock. Welcome, welcome to the show today. For those of you who tuned in to last week's show, I'm sorry, oh my gosh, so many messages came my way because there was so much weeping.
Actually, I'm not sorry. It was beautiful. beautiful weeping across the board. So it was a Mother's Day tribute. If you haven't listened to it, it is a beautiful episode that highlights and features four of our own Flocky's birth stories,
which was such an incredible thing to experience to be part of sharing their journeys and their experiences with the world. So thank you to those of you who submitted those.
And also I shared a lot of the best parts of Mother's Day. and the hardest parts of motherhood that came from all of you as well. So it really was a collaborative episode and it is beautiful,
but it will make you weep, especially because it was in the lead up to Mother's Day. So I hope you all had a wonderful Mother's Day. Since I blasted you with tears last week, I'm hoping you get some good laughs out of today's show.
We're always a good time to Aren't we honey? Oh, yeah Oh, yeah, so there he is. Oh, sorry. I guess I should have officially welcomed you to the pod today Welcome welcome. I just turned his face.
We're looking at each other very close We have to share the mic and he wasn't close enough. So now we really close. Hello. Welcome. Thank you. Thanks for having me again Oh, well, thanks for being here. How are you?
What have you been up to since the last time you were here back in January? Um Um, I mean, just doing our thing. It feels funny to converse with you like this,
because I know that we live together, but they don't know that we see each other every day, all day, almost, because he also works from home. I think they put that together by now. Yeah, well, OK, so maybe not,
though. For those of you who haven't listened to a mic on the mic, let me give you the lowdown. So mic, otherwise known around these parts as hot hubs. hubs, he's my husband, if you didn't gather that. And we've been together for nearly 13 years,
which is crazy. Every time I think about 13 years, I'm like, that's a whole adolescent that we've been together for. One whole child. One whole old child. I got this idea one day through the beginning stages of making the show where I thought,
wouldn't it be fun to get the male perspective on a lot of the topics that we discuss each Wednesday? I just think it's a really fun day. neat way to try and maybe understand our partners if our partners are men.
And also just understand where people are coming from whether they're our brothers or our friends or our fathers, our counterparts, our male counterparts. And so I asked Mike if he would do it. He kind of is hesitant about it.
You get a little nervous, don't you, Mike? - I mean, I'm an overthinker. So it's just, I guess it's not natural. And that's, yeah, we'll leave it at that. that. - Well, we're gonna talk about the overthinking episode, but he labeled this episode series kind of,
Mike on the Mike, which I think is very endearing and very punny. So that's what we're doing today. We're gonna chat about a bunch of the topics that have been on the pod since he was last on, which was in January.
And we're gonna try to shed light a little bit on the male perspective. So this would be a good episode to send to all your male friends out there, even if they don't listen to every joke. joyful Flamingo episode, this would be a good one.
Briefly, what I want to start with is periods. The last time we had you on, we briefly talked about cycles, our cycles and periods.
And then right after you were on, we actually launched that mini series. It was the four part episode. Once you listened to all of those episodes, what was the overarching overarching key concept that makes you grateful you know,
especially living with three females? I mean, it's become a big topic in our house, obviously, and having four, well, three, I was including the dog, but that's, that's hard to - She doesn't get her cycle anymore.
It's hard to communicate with her too, but I would say the overarching idea of just aligning with what's - happening within your body in that cycle, obviously being a man and that not maybe being as we'll say variable across the month,
that obviously is different for me and just having that insight to know and seeing you align with what feels right in that time of the month, whether that's a creative element and brainstorming these episodes as they come out versus times where you allow yourself to experience what you need to or feel the way you need to or whether that's a food element to the month.
and some of those great hits on just nutrition around the different times of the month. I think it's just been really exciting to see you really lean into the times that work and letting go of the times that don't within that month because it is less black and white me than I thought.
Is it just interesting to have that perspective now of oh their bodies actually don't work on a 24 -hour cycle the way that the whole world thinks that they do." Is it helpful?
Is it intriguing? Or does it allow you to understand us better knowing that we don't work like you do? Yeah, I mean, I'm a curious person by nature, so I think I'm just intrigued.
Like, I mean, we're pretty good about expressing it and like saying it how it is, but I think I can infer much more easily and maybe anticipate a little bit more as the how it is.
things are going to go in a week to week type basis and allow you to feel what you need to feel to be on the like stereotypical she's PMSing right now or whatever it might be. Oh yeah,
I hate, I really actually hate that term. I know. I know. Well, first of all, we had our naturopathic doctor who was talking about the fact that if you are in alignment with your cycle,
you shouldn't be experiencing many many premenstrual symptoms because you should be feeling in alignment with your cycle. But anyways, the moral of the story is it just is like an icky word to me.
I'm glad that we are not going to use it, but the other thing that I was going to say was you have seen multiple products come into our household over the past probably years I've been trying to navigate and shift away from using tampons and pads.
I know this must feel super uncomfortable. uncomfortable for you. Were you not just so excited for me (laughs) that my last cycle, I didn't have to use anything except for my period underwear?
- You were pumped. - I was pumped. - And I was pumped for you. - So for those of you who don't know, I'm also now a Knicks ambassador and I've been using these underwear and bras for a really long time,
but specifically the leak proof, high absorbency underwear. I had never got any of the high absorbency stuff and then I did and then I used it on my last cycle and that's all I used.
I was like so excited about it. So anyways you can sit and bask in my excitement but weren't you excited for me too? I mean I was just bummed that they didn't fit me. Oh yeah well bummed.
But also from an environmental standpoint which you actually really stand by, you know, sustainability and leaving the earth a better place than which we found it,
don't you think that that's actually really great that I just now have these underwear that I just rewash over and over again rather than using things that are going in the landfill?
It's amazing. It's so great. And how excited are we to like have that growing up for now our kids when they get to that part of life? I mean, just doing a little bit of research. it's amazing all the different options that are out there and not just assuming that it's the way that it's always been,
I guess you could say. - For sure. All right, let's move away from periods 'cause I know it makes you super uncomfortable. So let's talk about Barbie. (laughing) 'Cause that will make you feel way more comfortable.
We watched the Barbie movie together, right? - We did. - We did, yeah, okay. I want your perspective on it. That episode to me felt like I didn't even know.
I feel like it was so scattered like I was all over the place with my thoughts and the messaging from that movie and what I was taking from it the most but for you what was the loudest message from that movie for you?
I think it's it's a very it's a very loud movie to begin with in terms of the color choices and things like like that. It's all very over the top, but the underlying messaging is about as bold and loud as the colors that were used in the movie.
I think there's a lot of deep, deep meaning, and I think every time you watch it, you're going to probably take something different from it. We only watched it the one time, but there was a lot of... We get overstimulated very easily,
and it was an overstimulating movie. I'm even worse than you, but once you look past all the crazy colors, which I did at Times Fine, it truly does... from some of the beautiful messages that were embedded in there.
But I think there was a lot of reason for some of that. The messaging was very important in terms of the superficial versus deeper elements of what a woman experiences and what Barbie stands for.
So I think it was very well done in a lot of ways. And again, a little bit distracting at times, but not to take away from the important and deeper message there. Okay, and Ken, let's talk about Mame.
my man, Ryan Gosling, who we actually just watched for the first time in, what was that movie? - Blue Valentine. - Blue Valentine, brilliant. I mean, when you think of Ryan Gosling playing Dean,
I think, in Blue Valentine versus Ken, very different. But what did you think of the Ken character? Because at first I was like, ah, I don't know how I feel about this whole Ken character,
but then I actually... actually came around and quite liked him. And I might be controversial, but he didn't do it for me as much as I think some of the fanfare that he's getting, and I don't mean to,
I think he's brilliant in lots of things, but I don't think the character itself did it for me, but that's just me. And do you think that that was because of what Ken represents?
Maybe. I never gave it that much thought. That's maybe, maybe part of it. Hmm. Hmm. More to be explored, but we got more to talk about. So the other episode I really want to chat about is that 20 questions episode,
that 20 questions every woman should ask herself. So this was like a list made by Oprah's team. And they have actually come out with 20 more questions. Every woman should ask herself,
but I think it's poorly labeled. And I know... it was meant for women, but don't you think that a lot of those questions that I talked about on that episode could relate to men as well?
Yeah, to anybody. I mean, I think that a lot of them encourage the like introspection that we don't always give time for. Are you asking enough questions? Ironically,
I think that one was the one that stuck out to me and the fact that kids are asking so many on a you've always said that Yeah, and I know as a kid I asked a lot of questions and I certainly asked fewer than I should and Whether I don't want to make the trouble of asking questions or I feel like I know the answer to the question I feel like everyone could be asking more questions and I think we'd be all better
for it Do you think that comes from your science background too? Yeah, again, I think I am curious by nature So like to think that I ask more questions than most people, but I think everyone could just be asking more questions just around really anything.
Okay. But also I have a question for you, please add it to the list. What are you at numbers? This is your fourth question. I don't know. I haven't been counting my question to you is, so we parent together,
we have two children, one specifically right now, who asks a lot of questions just like you, which I feel like sometimes triggers you because you're like, oh, she's asking so many questions and I know I asked so many questions but isn't that a good thing?
It's a great thing. It's hard though right? Like it's hard as a parent when every second of your day is filled with a question that actually needs to be answered for them. In our mind we're like we don't need to answer that question but in their mind they need us to answer that question.
For sure. So how do we get better at putting away that feeling of I don't want to have to answer this question right now and remembering that it's actually a really good thing to ask questions?
What do we do? I think just keeping the overarching perspective, I think for me anyway, when you're working during the day and you're trying to be as efficient as possible and you've got this crazy list of things to do and you're interacting with other adults and the pace is just different.
Just remembering the time that that kid needs and deserves I think is really important to ensure that no matter how... minuscule the question might seem that it might be a completely new thought that you've obviously had a chance to think about for a few more years than they have so taking taking the time is valuable and the most cliche thing to say but that time is is important to give to them and maybe just
changing gears in terms of what you've maybe just come from in your day or the previous interaction that you've had with whether that's your spouse or your parent or whatever who's an adult at a different pace asking likely fewer questions that when you're interacting with that younger person,
that you give them that time. It's easy when you're sitting across from another adult to think about it that way. But I think in the moment, at least for me, you're tired. You've got other things on your mind.
Just remembering that you need to give them that time. So that's, this is just all my own thoughts. Not, not to say disclaimer, disclaimer alert, speaking for anybody.
Some of the questions that. that she's come up with recently have been very interesting, right? Like, especially around bedtime, I feel like that's when really cool questions arise. For sure. When you've built that foundation of like the basic understanding of things,
that's when you get to get to the deeper, more exciting and fun things sometimes. And even the basic questions are fun to answer because I mean, again, they're exploring everything for the first time in lots of things,
lots of muscles that they have. had to work in their mind before. So interesting. I'm actually excited to do the next part of that episode series of the next 20 questions because I feel like it's a really great exercise for people to do on a semi -regular basis is to like check in with themselves,
ask themselves things that they maybe once or maybe they have done before, but it's been a long time. Okay, I want to shift now to content consumption. consumption. So do you remember that episode?
- I do. - Okay. - That was the spring cleaning. - Yes, the spring clean your content consumption. I know this is different for you because as a backstory for the flock, Mike actually does not have social media,
has not had social media for, I think you didn't have it pre -wedding, but then you got Facebook again for our wedding because that's how we were communicating with our wedding party.
- You're so quick. out of the loop with it. I mean, I still feel that from time to time that a Facebook group or, uh, I don't know. I don't know what the kids are doing these days with all the TikToks and stuff like that, but I - I'm not on TikTok either,
actually. I'm just, I'm just saying, I feel like there are times where I certainly still feel out of the loop. This has always been my conversation with Mike and his lip is already starting to curl because he,
I think it knows what's coming. He, okay, what's coming? You're gonna say that I do it differently, that I don't use social media per se, but that there are other platforms that I use to. Such as?
I'm a Reddit guy. Yeah, he's a Reddit guy. Okay, so. But that's, I feel like it's different, but I know where you're going with this. No, I actually, this is, this is the opportunity to get the mail perspective.
So, I want it. I mean, it's not a mail perspective. Okay, this is a mic perspective. No, well, it's just anybody who's not on social media. media likely is doing other things that are not social media, but that are maybe time wasters.
But absolutely, but lots of things are. Yes, correct. Give the people your spiel about Reddit and why you actually really like it. I think there's a lot to impact there.
The first thing I'll say is I recognize, especially if we're putting it in the scope of being a parent and having young eyes looking at you, they don't care if you're checking it very important. important email or the weather or looking up a song or whatever it might be in your kid's mind.
You're doing something on your phone and you're removed from the situation. So I just want to lay that out regardless of what it is that you're doing and if it's screen related. The attention certainly, at least the perception would be that you're not focusing on what's most important which would be the kids in that room if that's where you are.
You need to be very mindful of what you're doing regardless of what you're doing. of what you think you are doing and how relevant you think it is. There's lots of times where I check the weather and it turns into something else and you just have to be careful.
That's the first thing. - And what have we started now? Well, we've not been doing a great job of it actually, but what did we say we wanted to start as a couple? Because we do use our phones for a lot of things,
like getting directions somewhere, grabbing the weather in the morning to see what they need to wear or whatever it is. what did we say we wanted to start doing? I think if there's something more lengthy that needed to be addressed,
like stepping out of the room, like physically removing yourself, oftentimes with all of these questions that the little kids are asking is if you're looking something up for sake of discovering and getting into a topic more deeply with them,
like including them in that, showing them the picture or reading it loud so that they're engaged with you in that. But I think the biggest thing would be very deliberate and and selective in the time. If there's something that needs to be addressed,
which happens for everybody, we're trying, again, trying our best to step out of the room and ensure that they aren't always feeling like they're lowest on the totem pole that way because I'm sure it's a very slippery slope in lots of houses and it's tricky to navigate.
We also talked about labeling it, right? Saying it out loud saying, "Oh, I'm going to check the weather right now before you pick up your phone." so that they know what it is that you're doing and then again like you said including them in that so then saying to our oldest hey come and check the weather with me so we can see what you need to wear when we were kids we had a desktop computer that was in a common
space common space thank you so that for those types of things you could be using something that had a large screen that didn't feel so individualistic right that's the thing about our devices now are so small,
they rest in our hands and not everybody can see what's happening on those, but if you're looking up the weather or you're trying to see how long our tomatoes in our backyard are going to take to grow or whatever it is we're doing,
if we're doing that on a desktop computer, they can be included. Correct. Okay, so back to Reddit. Reddit's the thing that if Mike's going to scroll Reddit is your you're like 9 30 to bed time.
That's what your downtime is, right? It's the front page of the internet. Oh, it's the tagline. No, but if there is a place that I'm yeah going to like we'll call mindlessly scroll I feel like that's a place where there is endless different topics on there and and whether it's news or Ideas for organizing the garage or all of those types of things.
It's certainly a way of syncing all lot of time into and again My my curious brain gets very distracted very easily with something like that So you feel like it's a learning space, too. Yeah,
okay, so also Instagram is and I'm just gonna put that out there Because all of those like delicious recipes that we try out and stuff literally that all comes from Instagram or any of my design things that I want to do in the house.
That's all kind of from Instagram too. So this is the thing is it's not about necessarily always where you're getting from your information. It's about monitoring the amount in which you're consuming,
how you're consuming and also the when we're consuming, which Mike and I disagree on this. I feel like if he scrolls right before bed, it must affect your sleep.
sleep. You say that it does not. You were an early riser and thrive in the early portions of the day. And my brain takes time to unwind.
And I feel like that's when it works for me. And you're probably right. The whole blue light thing and everything like that. Should we maybe get you some glasses? What do you mean, like blue light repelling glasses?
Yeah. Why are you laughing? I also think you would look very handsome in a set of glasses. glasses. Well, I mean, there's filters to put on but yes, I hear what you're saying there's uh everyone probably could be on their screen less.
So, if we're talking about consumption, there's certainly lots to unpack there and lots that could be way too much and to be reduced. We've been talking a lot because it's ironically been showing up in my content consumption recently about how to raise kids moving forward into this age where screens are just always there.
there. We actually just got an email from our education minister. Was it the minister that put it out? Was it all on Ontario where they're scrapping devices in the classroom for kids in terms of being able to use them whenever they want?
A huge study has been put out there now where it says that really what we should be doing is limiting or not limiting, eliminating the possibility for kids to have social media before they're sick.
So it doesn't happen before they're 16 and they don't get a smartphone before high school. Thoughts? - I think screens are very easily overdone and it's very easy for us to say and I think modeling that is about the most that we can do.
Legislation and all of that is another tool but I think ultimately it's what the people around those kids are seeing and what's being modeled to them, that's what's gonna make them feel like at the age of X. they feel like they need to have a phone.
It's just the nature of comparison. - Well, the concept too is that all parents come on board because the whole idea is that a bunch of teens were surveyed and said, you know, if we made it so that your phones were banned until you were 16,
the first initial question from all teens was, are they banned for everyone? And then the answer was yes. And then the teens, almost all of them, it was like something, I don't know, don't quote me,
but it was like 90 something percent of them said, oh, that would be great. Because it's all about FOMO, right? It's all about being the one that doesn't have it. Whereas if we all get on board and we all basically wait until they've gone through puberty to be able to then experience it in a way that conceptually they can understand the messages that are coming towards them,
then that's where it becomes important. a little bit easier as multiple parents are getting on board. Well, and that's the slippery slope of social media and the online world is if nobody was there,
it would be pretty boring, right? So if none of your peers are on there or none of your friends are on there, I'm sure you would spend a lot less time on it, but because there's so many people and so many opinions and so much to align with or argue with or hate on because there's lots of the negativity out there.
there too. If it wasn't for all of that content that everyone is engaging with, it would be a pretty boring place. And hence, to be some agreement amongst whether that's a certain age demographic or whatever.
So again, legislation is just one small piece of that. But I think ultimately modeling good hygiene online and the right way to do it, I think is the best thing that individuals or parents,
I guess, if we're going from a parent standpoint, what we can do. do, so we're trying our best. This could be literally an entire conversation. Oh, yeah. I mean, we talk about this so often in our home between the two of us. Maybe we'll do another episode just on this,
because I do feel like it's one of those things that young parents of young kids are really starting to research and dissect and figure out what works best for their families and blah, blah, blah. So anyways,
let's move on. Do you think very much? Do you think? - She says about as much sarcasm as she can. I mean, you think you're an overthinker,
I'm a chronic overthinker. I'm working on it. I'm trying, I mean, even in this episode. The gaps that were probably deleted are many. - No, but okay,
so for reference, there was a big long pause that we had to take out because Mike, the very first question, got like a little bit. bit in his head, shall we say? - A little. - A little.
And then he felt like he needed to take a big pause and step back to think about what he wanted to say and then came back. What I will say is that once you answer the first question now is kind of like momentum,
right? Now we haven't had to pause really at all since that first question. - Until now and I'm gonna start to think about it. So let's keep this screen moving. - Okay, okay. So you obviously listened to the overthinker.
episode. It was written for me, probably. Thank you. No, it was written for both of us. And truly, it was written for both of us because we happen to be in a partnership where both of us overthink, which is very unhealthy,
I think. I mean, we have lots of healthy things. That part of it can be unhealthy for us in a partnership. For sure. Was there anything that really hit you within that episode?
I mean, all of it really hit me. to me. I think just being more willing to say yes to things as opposed to no because of the worry about what might be the outcome. Like nothing is permanent. That's the biggest thing I keep coming back to.
So I need to remind myself of that and make sure that if it's not life or death, like it probably doesn't need a fraction of the amount of time that I spend thinking about it. Rarely is there something that can't be changed retroactively.
- I love ya. Love you too. As we're on top of each other on one mic. Okay. We're almost nearing the end here, but I do want to talk about my birthday list.
That surprisingly was an episode that people were really into, like really, they were down for that one. Weren't they? You were floored by the feedback on that one. Yeah. It's so funny because you think about ones that anyways,
it doesn't matter, but I'm glad that everyone was like right on board with his birthday list. Which one? was the thing on the list that was your favorite? - A lot of them were around the theme of adventure.
I think we were at a time where we were like in the trenches and we had some kids that weren't quite physically able to do some of the more adventurous things. And I think a lot of them were you and I type adventure stuff which is exciting to think about again as we are able to step away from just our little cave of taking care of the cubs.
(upbeat music) you will. Oh, they're so cute as little cubs are. They look at their little faces as cubs. Yeah, so getting out of the cave a little bit more, I guess you could say, and taking in the world,
the country, doing things that are a little bit more adventurous, I think is an overarching theme. What did you get me for my birthday? A tent. Yes, I love it. Well,
the kids did. Oh, it was from the kids. Oh. Oh, okay, okay. - They're piggy banks are empty now. - Okay. So I told you all that I wanted to go tent camping and we don't have a tent.
So I was like, oh, we're gonna have to get a tent. I got a tent for my birthday, which is great. And have I gotten dressed nearly every day of being 36 so far? - You have.
- Why are you laughing? - I mean, I miss you walking around the house nude, but. - Oh, Mike. Mike. See, and this is interesting to me because sometimes I'll say, we had an understanding when I started this episode that I would be really mindful of making sure that we were still keeping,
like we as a couple generally like to keep our couplehood private and family life private as well too. You guys will see that our daughter's faces don't appear on our social media.
And when we talk about them, we refer to them without their names and blah, blah, blah. I want it to be really mindful. mindful that when you're putting out a podcast, that's basically available to the whole world. And so there are sometimes where I'll say something and you'll be like,
wow, good for you. Like, I don't think I would have been comfortable talking about sugaring. I mean, I don't think you would be comfortable getting sugared. I don't think I still don't think I'm fully aware of what I don't really understand what it is.
Oh God, I don't even know where this was going. What did you see? say that made me-- Me saying you walking around the house nude. Yes, so that is an example of putting yourself out there.
I mean, I don't-- You, putting you out there. That's true. I don't walk around the house nude very often. Also, Mike has this weird thing. This must be a country kid thing. But he feels like he can't go anywhere in our house unless he's fully clothed if the curtains are open.
Why is that? that? You just feel like people are going to be looking in even if your shirt is off, even if you just have a pair of shorts on. I don't know. I'm overthinking it. Yeah,
two shape. Anyways, I have been dressed. So I've been getting dressed every single day since I've been 36 and I look good. You look great. Yeah. And then there was the other one that was actually the favorite thing on your birthday list was not adventure when you said it to me.
- Oh, the dinner party thing? - Yeah. - Yeah, just the socialization and sharing ideas. - And food. - And food, yeah, two of our favorite things. So yeah, that was exciting to me as well.
- Okay, awesome. - Again, adventure, just like getting out there more. - Are you gonna make your own list? - I think I have to. - Do you know he's younger, Flock? - Yeah, my list will be. way shorter.
I couldn't find enough candles at the store for your birthday. Oh shush, how old are you? Younger than you. A man never claims his age, is that a saying?
I don't know, I just made it. Okay, I have two more questions, very short ones. I did mention in that birthday episode the idea of a women's retreat, where we really just come together to be in joy and peace.
peace and calm and good nutrition and exercise and sunshine and all the things that we need to make ourselves feel good and doing it together. I think the women's retreat is it's a vibe out there in the world.
I know you're always like, why do you always use that word so much? But it's because the word vibe can mean so many things. That must be on social media. You missed it. You missed it. It definitely is out there in the world.
This idea of women's retreats is something that that I feel like a lot of people are looking for right now. Do you feel like that should be a thing for men? Men's retreats? - Ultimately,
another way of saying that is community. - But specifically for men? - Yeah, I think men seek community. I think that we, at least for me, I keep to myself a little bit more.
I think maybe men could be encouraged to, I think I've said this on the last episode, but trying to just share ideas, more and just ensure that you're not alone. I think some men sometimes feel alone.
Do you feel like they feel alone, but they don't admit? Or if they feel alone that then they don't act as much on not being alone? 100%. I think you just like, you got to tough it out.
And I think, uh, I feel like as I get older, I, I don't want to tough it out. I want to try to branch out, reach out and there's lots of very smart people in the world,
and we live very close to lots of them. So ensuring that we're interacting with those people and everyone's craving community. And I think we're in a place now where you're not in as much in the cave and we can branch out and create that community and also show our kids how to create community.
- Mm -hmm, that was on my list. That was on my birthday list. - Was create community? - Yeah. - Oh, I don't remember that one. - I don't remember. I mean, I - - You don't remember every single thing from each of my episodes?
Get out. Okay, last question. I'll give you this list. So you guys can't see this, 'cause I'm passing him the list of all these episodes. I want to know what your favorite episode has been since January,
since the last mic on the mic. So let's scroll down all the way to the last, wait. Okay, here. Here. you were the end of January. Starting here, scroll upwards and tell me which was the episode.
Did any make you cry? Was there a favorite among them? - I would say the Overthinker one was the one that spoke to me in terms of what actions I need to take.
The Resilient Spirit series, I mean, I would be remiss to not mention that. I think that that was beautiful storytelling and very brave of both of those ladies. to to share their story. And there's lots of learnings from that as well.
But those little tidbits and all of them, I think they were all great. For me, the the one that made me feel like I needed to take some more action was the overthinker's one. Okay, well good because I wrote it for you.
I'm just kidding. I wrote it for us. Thanks. Thank you very much. Shelby handshake. No. No, we will not handshake.
I Appreciate you all for listening. Thank you so much for being here I really hope that you got some good laughs today because I know that the last episode was a little bit of a weepy one But please please please if you haven't yet shared the joyful flamingo show with others We would be so appreciative of sharing it either on your social media if you're on reddit.
Can people post? to Reddit? Start the joyful flamingo subreddit. Can you? I mean that's a thing. I'm leaving it to you. Seriously, share,
share, share this episode and this episode specifically give it to all the men in your life, send it to your brothers, to your friends, to your dads, to your partners if you're with them. We're just so grateful for all of the years that we can get on these episodes because that's how we grow and that's how we impact more.
That's how we create community. which is what we're all about here at the Joyful Flamingo. We are wishing you such a-- - Joyful day. - Yes, we are. Thank you for being here.
Until next time. - Bye. - Just a reminder, Flamingo Flock, that I am not a medical or psychological professional. Each one of my episodes has been inspired by my own experience and journey through life and is brought to you through my own opinions and lens.
Any suggestions or advice offered here do not substitute proper conversations with your own healthcare professionals for either your physical or mental well -being.